“It's not that some people have willpower and some don't. It's that some people are ready to change and others are not.”~ James Gordon, M.D.

Are you ready for a change? I mean, honestly and truly ready for a change?  One of the earliest lessons my father taught me was to be direct, honest and always speak the truth. Unfortunately, many folks simply can’t handle either–but over the next few days, that’s exactly what you’ll get from me. Please know that what you’ve already begun reading is not just another “inspirational,” “weight loss” or “self-help” book designed to help you reach a short-term goal. This is a guide along a path that leads away from your current state of complacency towards total wellness. Greatness repels complacency, so if you have no desire to be great it’s best that you put this guide down now and continue on the path you’ve been traveling for far too long. However, I can assure you that your soul will never find the peace it so desperately desires above all else.

This guide will help you discover the anointing God has intended on your life since the dawn of time. Despite those old familiar doubts that may already be creeping into your mind, He has a plan just for you. Unfortunately, if you decide not to fulfill your destiny that assignment will never be accomplished. This guide allows you to get out of your own way and become not only a blessing to yourself, but to others. I truly thank God for allowing me the opportunity to be your personal Sherpa as you trek towards a goal that may now seem as impossible as climbing the Himalayas. Once you reach the summit of your success and look back from whence you’ve come, your heart will rejoice because it will realize you have everything within to conquer future mountains. Your body, mind & spirit will be awakened!

If you are unsure of what it feels like to be “awakened,” read on. Some things must be experienced first-hand to be understood and truly appreciated. However, a glimpse may be all that’s required to initiate an irreversible process in your life. For some, that glimpse will occur for the first time while reading this guide. For many others that have yet to realize it, the process has already begun. This guide will simply help them realize it. For some, it may have begun as a result of painful life-changing events; for others, through coming in contact with folks who simply have an unexplainable “light” emanating within, through reading particular books, a recent spiritual experience–or any combination thereof. If your awakening process has just begun, this guide will certainly prepare you for the journey that lies ahead.

It’s widely believed that it takes 21 days to break a habit–or better yet, just 21 days to create a new one and make sure you are on the right path towards your true destination. Therefore, I’ve broken this guide into 21 chapters that allow you to read, reflect, and begin to map your plan of action as you study a chapter each day. It’s highly recommended that you begin each chapter with a brief prayer so that what is conveyed will be received in the full purpose for which it was intended. In addition, because it’s so easy to become completely overwhelmed or discouraged by the enormity of this incredible life-changing task, it’s best that you simply stick to one chapter each day and let it marinate before continuing to the next. You may be tempted to jump to the days that appear to be the “most interesting,” but I truly advise against this. You’ve already learned that most of the short-cuts in life usually end up costing us more in the long run. Therefore, please know your success depends upon you adhering to the path as closely as possible.

That said, I’m extremely excited because I am well aware of all the new discoveries and revelations that await you. They happened to me! I’m not better, just different. And the difference is better. When we are blessed with a gift, we can either choose to hoard it for fear that the next blessings may be few and far between, or freely share it with others because we’ve learned that one of the keys that unlocks a door to happiness is the joy of giving. Despite our best efforts, we have no say in what others choose to give to us. However, we are in 100% control of what we decide to share with others. It is my choice to freely share this blessing with you. I pray that you make the most of it, because your future blessings may hinge on how you respond to this blessing.

Three Important Features

At the end of each chapter you’ll discover a section called Daily Reflection. These questions are virtual mile markers along your journey to not only remind you of where you’ve been, but where you’re going. At the end of your 21 day sojourn, you’ll also discover a series of Discussion Questions that you are encouraged to discuss with those you’ve invited to join your journey. Please believe that it’s impossible to have any substantive lasting success alone. We were designed to be a part of a community of others who all share a common goal: survival. Here is some additional information about what you will find in the question sections:

  • Mental Manna: This valuable piece of mental nutrition encapsulates the entire chapter into a single thought that you can reflect on throughout your day. It is my prayer that this thought propels you to the next day where you will read the subsequent chapter and begin to map the waypoints along your pathway to wholeness.
  • Question to Ponder: These questions force you to consider what was just read in the chapter and make a decision on how you can change your life in a positive manner. This is your guide, so I hope you’ll highlight the various points that speak to your spirit and ultimately string together the various pearls of wisdom to create a beautiful necklace of change.
  • Group Discussion Questions: Throughout your journey you’ll undoubtedly be reminded that there is indeed strength in numbers. In Appendix I you will find Discussion Questions. I strongly encourage you to get as many of your friends together as possible to join you in reading this guide over the next 21 days. You’ll be able to gain incredible insight and different perspectives on the salient points each of you glean from day-to-day. Afterwards, you’ll continue to have a ready-made support group that will be vital in your success in staying the course. Be it at your book club, church, gym or social networking web site; you can be the spark that will ignite a change like never seen before in the lives of those around you.

The Pathway

Let’s face it–changing your life the way you really know you should isn’t as easy as many of the self-help books lead us to believe. Every single one of us is still holding on to some kind of physical (body), emotional (mind), and spiritual pain and that’s why we all need healing. You may be holding on to so much pain that you no longer feel connected to anything or anyone, including yourself. Whether it’s something you ate, drank, felt, believed, injected or inhaled; chances are you’ve ingested way too much harmful stuff. These toxins that enter our body, mind, and spirit are what we must begin to rid ourselves of now!

Perhaps you’ve simply given up all hope of changing your life and drifted into accepting, “it is what it is.” I was in that same sinking boat of complacency until someone tossed a life preserver and pulled me aboard the S.S. Body, Mind & Spirit. This guide is your life preserver and I hope you grab it with both hands and refuse to let go.

Regardless of the money you spend on fitness gimmicks, cosmetic  surgeries, psychics or faith-healers who only seem to cure folks when the camera is on and your wallet is full; you simply will not be compelled to change who you truly are until you’re either uncomfortable, evolve or are forced to do so. In other words, your “have to” becomes more important than your “want to.”

As you begin to journey further down this rabbit hole of self-discovery, your “want to” will begin to manifest as a “have to.” Therefore, let me address the #1 question that’s probably brewing in your mind right now, since all the other books you’ve read were also filled with such promises and yielded very few rewards. That question is simply…

“How is this different from all the other ‘inspirational’, ‘self-help’ and ‘weight loss’ books?”

  • This is not just another diet or weight loss (loss of fat and muscle) book. Diets simply don’t work and we need to be more concerned about fat loss. In fact, I would better categorize this as a “Negativity Loss” guide. Loss of negative fat, negative habits, negative foods, negative people, negative thoughts, and negative actions.
  • This is not a second-hand analysis written by a Ph.D., M.D., certified this.., licensed…that. Nor is this an amalgamation of a 1,000 patient study that resulted from countless hours of paid sessions. This is a culmination of the blood, sweat, and tears from someone just like you who grew tired of a vicious cycle and discovered how to finally break through and improve total wellness.
  • This guide is not about a destination, but rather a lifetime journey.
  • This guide will not criticize other diet programs, philosophies or individuals. There’s simply no place for negativity in an honest effort to be positive.
  • This is not a condescending lecture of me vs. you. Rather, a candid discussion that will hopefully help all of us.
  • This guide travels a holistic and naturopathic path to examine not only the symptoms but the root causes of why we overeat, refuse to exercise, battle low self-esteem, and lack the confidence to do what God has called us to do.
  • This guide examines your vocation vs. avocation.
  • This guide compares religion vs. spirituality vs. science.
  • This guide addresses the age old question, “What religion is God?”
  • This guide is intended for: black, white, brown, red, yellow, young, old, Jew, Buddhist, Christian, Muslim, agnostic, atheist, hopeless, and confident.
  • This guide shows you how to turn your body into a fat burning machine.
  • This guide will make you think, laugh, and hopefully take the next step.
  • This guide examines the “Tito Jackson” of the Seven Deadly Sins that most preachers, imams, and rabbis often fail to mention—gluttony.
  • This guide provides helpful insight into what to do when life inevitably gets in the way of your best intentions.
  • This guide not only examines the power of prayer and meditation, but provides additional instruction on how they can be done on a regular basis.
  • This is a self-funded grassroots approach that is not beholding to corporate sponsors, political or special interest groups.
  • This guide was not motivated by making money, but rather by making a difference.
  • This guide was written just for you!

Life is a journey that we’ll never truly master, and it is our best hope to simply be prepared to travel it without doing harm to ourselves or the other sentient beings God has given us dominion over. In addition, we all are in need of some assistance, encouragement, and guidance in order to fully maximize our potential. When we examine what finally sparks us to make a positive change in our lives, it’s usually an external pressure that either makes us no longer comfortable with the status quo, causes us to evolve like Darwinian primates from homo couchpotatoean to maximus fitnessmus, forces us to change because it seems to be the lesser of two evils or…we simply no longer have a choice. In short, we suddenly realize that we “have to” change.

Most of us are OK with our lives being out-of-order as long as we have no desire to put it in order. In fact, we often get our Al Bundy on by fooling ourselves into thinking that we are still the person we used to be until reality hits us with a Riddick Bowe upper-cut (Shout-out to my D.C. Homie!) and reminds us that our delusion is no longer true. When confronted with this uncomfortable realization, we may initially deny or dismiss the truth or simply hope the reality disappears on its own. When it doesn’t, we start with small and relatively easy steps to change the situation, because suddenly the discomfort of the truth becomes more unbearable than the comfort of denial. Finally, if those small steps prove to not be enough, we recite a few verses from the Apostle Popeye who so famously stated, “That's all I can stands because I can't stands n'more!” Suddenly, emotions kick into gear and give us the courage to take other steps that may be a bit more difficult, but are more likely to solve the problem once and for all.

Each of us has our own breaking point, and the emotional frustration may manifest in various ways. Some of us are very good at turning a blind eye to a situation that would drive others insane. For example, I always vowed that I would never purchase any trousers larger than size 34 waist. Nope! Just wasn’t going to happen, captain! Although I could still fit into my pants, I became rather uncomfortable after three close friends gave me a reality check (that I couldn’t cash) and placed my sedentary life in front of a mirror that I could finally see for what it truly was: complacency.

The first glimpse occurred while delivering a dining room table to my friend Palace, whom I hadn’t seen in about six months. Upon seeing me, one of her first comments was, “Looks like you are putting-on a little weight.” Oooooooouch!

Act 2, scene 1 ensues just a few short weeks later when my main man 50 grand,  Ken Jennings Jr., a.k.a.”Man,” and his beautiful wife “J” were visiting from California and he also noted, “Dude, you are looking a little ‘thick.’ You need to drop about 15 lbs.” Wow! I mean, what in the sweet name of Chubby Checker was going on? Man’s words indeed bruised my "Thicky Ricardo" ego, but later I learned that temporary pain was the result of a seed of truth that he was courageous enough to have sown into my life. That seed had taken root in my fallow soul.  This truth saved my life!

Epilogue: during the annual Hackley Kwanzaa Celebration, my line-brother Martin Astrop exclaimed, “I see the married life is treating you well!” as he patted the keg that used to be my well-chiseled six-pack midsection while we were pledging Omega Psi Phi during the spring of 1987. (Shout-out to the Bruhz! Roo!)  All I could say internally was, “And down goes Frazer!” in my best Howard Cosell voice. After hearing this true but stinging comment, my ego deflated like the tires of a tandem bicycle ridden by two sumo wrestlers.

Glory be to God, later I began to understand the Biblical significance of the number “3” and the way God often uses others to help us see a point we ignored when the Holy Spirit was trying to tell us from within. I now felt such a deep appreciation for these three individuals who cared and loved me enough to be candid and shine a much needed light into my darkness of self. If not for these individuals, I literally could have been simply fat, dumb and not really happy for the rest of my life. By the way, when we receive three indications, reminders, warnings or whatever; usually it’s a sign that God is trying to tell us something.

“3” is Indeed a Magic Number

Those educational School House Rock programs truly changed the lives of so many kids growing up in the ‘70s & early ‘80s, and they were on to something with the concept that “3 is a magic number.”  Three represents the triune God and is the number of personal completeness. It is formed by 1+1+1, but if the 1s are multiplied, the result is still 1. So God is three in one and one in three. In geometry two lines cannot enclose an object. Hence 2 is an incomplete number, while 3 is a complete number that can frame an object as well as an issue or warning God is trying to reveal in your life. As God has shown Himself to be represented as the Father, Son and Holy Spirit, He created man out of dust to be made as body, mind & spirit. 

There are many references to the number 3, and I’m sure if you pause to look back on your life, you’ll also find several examples of its completeness. Please make a point to notice it going forward–that observation may be just the sign you’ve been waiting for to get you back on the right path to happiness.

I now know that it’s not just about the size of our waist or how much fat we need to lose. The big picture and true key to happiness is being fit as a “whole.” Not just in body, but body, mind, and spirit. Show me a person with a fit body who has a troubled mind and/or spirit and we’ll discover an unhappy person beneath that buff exterior. Or a spiritual person who can recite the Bible, Qur’an, Torah, and Thripitaka (the Dhamma as told by Buddha in three parts) but is severely overweight; and we’ll also find a troubled person. Balance is indeed the path to lasting success, but how do we get there?

Here’s something that will totally blow you away and perhaps instill a bit of confidence that the $19.99 you paid for this guide may be the best investment you’ve made all year.

As strange as it may seem, you’ve never actually seen your face before with your own eyes. Contrary to what you may be thinking right now, when you look in a mirror you aren’t really seeing yourself. Rather, you’re viewing a reflection. Think about it—you’ve always seen a reflection of your face, never the real thing! Even though it’s only a representation, you’ve learned to trust this reflection. What you see in the mirror is not totally the truth, but rather a product of the type of mirror you use and your state of mind as it examines the reflection. Deep, huh? When you go to the circus and view yourself in either a fat, skinny, tall or short mirror, you are well aware of the distortion in advance. Are you equally aware of the potential distortion your mind may have when you look in your regular bathroom or hallway mirror? By the end of this guide, you’ll be clear about how you truly look. Even more, how you truly are.

What about your mind? How do you make sure your mind is in order? To gauge our mental state, we simply have learned to ask ourselves how we are feeling. It’s a question that typically doesn’t require much thought. We know exactly how we are feeling. If it’s a bad day, we don’t feel all that tough. However, when it’s a good day, there’s usually extra pep in our step and we may even be dancing around like the Cracksemite Sam character Gator, in Spike Lee’s movie, Jungle Fever. “’Cause, I’m a cra-cra-cra-cra-crackhead”!

Finally, what about your spirit? This is often a very difficult question to answer, because many of us have either lost touch with our spirit or never knew it to begin with. In fact, since we are unable to use our natural senses to touch, smell, see, taste or hear our spirit; we often doubt that it even exists. Please know that God’s Word perfectly reflects who you are in the spirit. It’s the only way you can know for sure. We can’t just assume something this important is OK. Besides, always remember that which is spirit is spirit and that which is flesh is flesh. Flesh can never be used to discern spirit. So once again, how is your spirit? If you can’t answer this question now, please don’t fret. By the end of this guide, you will indeed have an answer and hopefully even a solution that will get you back on the right path. Knowing your spirit is the key to knowing yourself.

Now that I’ve got your mind wide open like a 7-Eleven, how do we begin to change things to make sure that your body, mind, and spirit are in alignment so you can be well on your way to realizing a happiness and success you’ve never even imagined? No matter how you slice it, there are three reasons why we all change from birth ‘til death: evolution, inevitable stages of life and our response to either desperation or inspiration.


One of the dearest moments I’ll always treasure is witnessing the birth of my daughter Landon. When the doctor removed her from the comfort of Angela’s womb, Landon was the most beautiful, yet helpless, thing I had ever seen. For the next 12 months she would be totally dependent on others for her basic necessities of food, clothing, shelter, and mobility. I couldn’t wait for her to figure out how to crawl because then it was just a matter of a few short months before she would learn to walk. Now, at 4-yrs-old, she is reading her own stories, taking her own showers, cutting her own pancakes and her potential is truly limitless because she’s yet to learn what “She can’t do.”  Fortunately, she still views her natural evolution as a simple fact of life. Although Angela and I coached and coaxed her along over the years, it was just the way she was wired to evolve since birth.

Unfortunately, once we’ve matured and begin to believe that we are now “successful,” or believe the world when it continues to remind us of the things we can’t or used to do; we begin to actively resist the same evolutionary process that was responsible for our growth and success up to that point. In my case, I was 45-years-old, married, had a beautiful family, nice house, and a nice gig. I was set! Or so I thought… I simply stopped evolving, and laziness began to rob my wife and daughter of the one man in this world who loved them both more than life itself. Contentment is the antithesis of evolution and it was slowly killing me.

Inevitable Stages of Life

Be it dating, graduation, marriage, birth of our children, kicking them out of the proverbial nest or the onset of old age; each stage of our life creates a different climate that facilitates the next stages of our growth and development. Generally, as we begin to age and come to grips with our mortality, it seems that only then do we begin our quest for deeper spiritual meaning and endeavor to grow closer to God. Why is He such an enigma that we seldom bother to investigate during our youth?

In truth, the more we're in touch with these naturally occurring stages, the easier it is to shift directions when old patterns (or people) no longer fit. We become as the caterpillars that begin to realize that they simply were not meant to crawl and see the world from the ground-floor their entire lives. We go into our cocoon of introspection and emerge beautiful butterflies that can now see the world from a whole new perspective. Like the caterpillar, we too will experience the inevitable stages of life and hopefully begin to view the world from an improved butterfly vantage point and no longer that of our old caterpillar selves.

Desperation or Inspiration

Each Sunday, Pastor Michelle Thomas preaches from the depth of her soul in hopes that the words spoken from her Holy & Whole Life Changing Ministries pulpit will resonate among our growing congregation in Lansdowne, Va. Most sermons are meant to encourage us to live with renewed commitment to a set of higher principles so we can indeed say that we are shalom (nothing missing, nothing broken) in our bodies, minds, and spirits. This weekly form of inspiration truly grounds me in Christ and be you Christian, Muslim, Jew or even Buddhist, I encourage you to fellowship as often as possible so that your spirit can be recharged on a regular basis. For the inspirational words heard may also allow you to become an inspiration to others.

Unfortunately, some fail to heed the life lessons and warnings issued from the pulpit, close friends, relatives or even that still small inner voice that whispers to us all. As a result, we find ourselves in a desperate situation where change is our only option. Ever been to the doctor and received some news that forced you to stop eating this and start doing that? Desperation can be as compelling a motivator as inspiration. Unfortunately, responding while desperate often leads to disappointing results.

Regardless of what finally sparks us, no one really wants to be forced to do anything; be it by someone else or perhaps even a circumstance. In fact, being forced to do something is probably the least effective method for creating permanent change in our lives. When we go to the doctor’s office and discover high blood pressure, high cholesterol, pre-diabetes or a host of other potential maladies, we are forced to make changes or suffer the consequences of deteriorating health. The ultimate price, of course, is no longer being around to care for our children and loved-ones.

When the stresses of life cause us to toss-and-turn at night and we desperately seek a way to quiet our minds, we have to find a solution. The restless mind leads to a lack of sleep, which leads to deteriorating health. In addition, when the Holy Spirit “knocks” at the door of our hearts and we fail to answer the call, this creates an emotional fissure that seems to grow the more we ignore Him.

Bottom line: whether forced or not, we have a choice. The prudent choice is to always choose the option that leads to longevity, because we have to remain whole…we have to be obedient…we have to stay alive!

My Journey Begins…

In the poem “Little Gidding,” T.S. Eliot writes, “We shall not cease from exploration, and the end of our exploring will be to arrive where we started and to know the place for the first time.” In other words, our life is a journey that doesn’t require us to go anywhere. It’s a journey without distance because we travel it within. Make no mistake–we are all on a journey, but some of our paths are simply leading us in one continuous circle. When we find ourselves overweight, absent from God and doing the same things we were doing more than 20 years ago; this is a perfect indication that our evolution has ceased and we’re not living the lives we were intended to lead.

After more than 20 years in sales & marketing, I knew the key to getting folks interested in improving their total lives was to advertise the changes they would first see in their body. Let’s be clear–we live in a society where physical attractiveness trumps mental and spiritual maturity, and the majority of us are more interested in learning how we can lose 50+ lbs in less than four months, rather than strengthening our minds and growing closer to God. Just think about how many infomercials you’ve seen and radio spots you’ve heard in the past few days to get your body ripped. Now compare those to the advertisements you’ve either seen or heard focused on quieting your mind or improving your relationship with God, outside of viewing a Christian television network or listening to a Christian radio broadcast. The answer… crickets chirping.

When I tell folks I’ve lost more than 50 lbs in just four months, the first question is “What’s your secret?” When my response is God, many unknowingly change their facial expressions instantly as if to infer (Imply is what the speaker does, and infer is what the hearer does. I learned this distinction watching an episode of Law & Order), “That surely can’t be the answer.”  Unfortunately, we’ve been programmed to believe that the primary reason people lose fat rapidly is the d-word. The next most popular method assumed is weight loss surgery (WLS). Third, “He must be on ‘dat stuff!” In my case, the only stuff I was on descended from Heaven like manna and my life and those around me has not been the same.

It was Saturday morning on February 26th, 2011 and my wonderful wife Angela had to meet her dad very early over in Southeast D.C. (District of Columbia). Every Saturday morning during the prior few weeks I would wake up and go running, but if I wanted to get my 4-miles in on this particular a.m., I would have to rise & shine and hit the pavement before the sun had even yawned. I had logged many miles on this same route consistently over the past few weeks, but on this particular morning things would never be the same. About a mile into the run, I entered into a transcendental zone where I would travel hundreds of yards and not know how I had gotten there. The single transcending thought that had dominated my mind during each pounding stride was simply:

"You have to write a book titled, ‘Body, Mind & Spirit’."

Now, although most of us have dreamed of writing a book about something, I knew that my writing skills were a can I put this? WEAK!! As the hundreds of yards turned into miles, it became even clearer that by writing this guide, God would improve my writing skills and provide the people and wherewithal to breathe life into this project just as He had done to Adam. Besides, a few people that I’ve known for years had published books. Dr. Psyche Williams-Forson had written Building Houses Out of Chicken Legs, which was reviewed in the New York Times, and Dr. Tamara Brown had published African American Fraternities and Sororities, which explored the rich past and bright future of the nine Black Greek-Letter organizations that make up the National Pan-Hellenic Council. Why couldn’t I also produce something that’s socially relevant?

Usually after running four miles I would be winded and my muscles would be stiff, but one of the most incredible things about this unforgettable run was that I was not winded at all after my last stride! In fact, I felt as refreshed, as if had just gotten out of bed after a very restful sleep. Looking back on this life-changing run from a heightened spiritual perspective, I had received an anointing.
Upon entering the house, the first thing I told Angela was, "Baby, I think I'm going to write a book."  Perhaps she may have thought I had slipped and hit my head, but her response was rather encouraging and she even brought a book home from the grocery store later that day that provided some valuable insight into my task at hand. My help mate took the very first step in the incredible journey that my wonderful family would later take as one.

Unfortunately, like most good ideas, doubt and negativity began to enter my mind as the day went on, but for every reason I may have thought of why I shouldn't invest the time, energy and money into writing and publishing this guide, 20 reasons emerged why I should. I've long believed in the power of speaking things into existence, so I immediately posted my public proclamation in the Body, Mind & Spirit: The Awakening Facebook group and vowed to donate one-half of all revenue (not profit but revenue!) generated from the sale of the book to my new church home of Holy & Whole Life Changing Ministries International located in Lansdowne, Va. I kind of felt like Moses who, despite his speech impediment, God allowed to do great things. God sent Aaron to Moses and I truly believe He sent me the wonderful folks in my Facebook group to offer assistance, encouragement and various perspectives.

So what is this guy talking about?

You see, since January 3rd, 2011 and that life-changing run on February 26th, 2011, I had already lost 30 lbs of fat. At the time I sat down to write this guide on April 1st, 2011, I had lost a total of 43 lbs. That’s 43 lbs in three months! People simply couldn’t believe that I had lost such a significant amount of fat in just a few short weeks and I’m sure most were convinced that I would inevitably gain the majority of it back–and then some. What most people didn’t realize is that I had totally undergone a change of mind. I had an amazing epiphany of how the body, mind & spirit were all connected and that we would never truly accomplish any lasting fat loss objectives if we didn’t:

  1. Put God first and accept the fact that fat loss needs to be for the Glory of God and not the vanity of man if we expect it to be lasting.
  2. Realize diets should be considered the d-word because the only lasting results they yield are the eternal feelings of failure.
  3. Learn new ways to focus and strengthen the mind, as well as the body to resist the inevitable urges to return to bad eating habits and an unhealthy way of life.
  4. Accept the fact that improving body, mind & spirit is not a destination but a lifelong journey that will continue until God calls us Home.

To date, I’m proud to say that I’m now more than 50 lbs lighter, I have found a new church home for my entire family, and have found ways to quiet and center my mind in the midst of the daily chaos that attacks us all. In addition to the personal success, my life has been a source of inspiration for a number of family members and friends. Even more, God has allowed me to chronicle much of the information I’ve read, lived, and observed into this guide that will hopefully inspire you to either continue or begin a journey towards total wellness in your life and the lives of those around you. Each of us has the incredible potential to spark a change in others. Not just thru our words but most importantly thru our actions and success.

Your Journey Begins…

Your journey actually began when God first thought of creating you. Yes, God thinks. Therefore, He put events in motion that not only allowed your parents to meet; but God also orchestrated all the generations on each side of your family tree just so you would have the genetic code that allows you to be the extraordinarily unique individual that you are. Your very existence can never be considered an accident, for although our world is unfortunately filled with many illegitimate parents, God has yet to create a single illegitimate child.

Upon birth, you had to rely on your parents, or parental figure(s), to care for, nurture, and help shape your future. However, around 17- to 18-yrs-old, you began to make your own decisions that have largely influenced and led to where you are today.


When you examine “the dot” and “the line” above please know the dot represents your time on earth, which for most of us will be 70-80 yrs, God willing. The line represents eternity. This guide will help you rethink the dot of your earthly existence in preparation for eternity. Once you truly begin to understand how everything you do today matters forever, you will begin to make different choices–better choices. For in the grand scheme of things our existence, “the dot,” amounts to a simple blink of an eye when compared to eternity. Unfortunately, many of the decisions we make are motivated by the pleasures sought during our temporal earthly stint at the cost of the eternal rewards received by simply obeying the Word of God. This may be man’s greatest forfeiture.

When our less-than-healthy way of living leads to unhappiness and poor health, we find it extremely easy to look beyond our own culpability and assign blame. Why? Because it’s easier to cast blame than to fix the issue; it’s easier to criticize those who are already successful instead of improving ourselves. So instead of rolling up our sleeves and solving our own problems the right way, we are inclined to limit our activity to blaming, criticizing, and very little else. Therefore, our problems remain our problems.

So when it comes to your own body, mind, and spirit, assume control and accept full responsibility. It’s the only way that you’ll ever be able to not only look at yourself in the mirror with pride, but see the reflection of that same pride in the eyes of those who love you.

With that said, it is my sincere prayer that you unearth some valuable pearls of wisdom that will help on your journey to improve total wellness. Although I am a Christian who fully believes in the Trinity as well as the birth, life, death, and resurrection of Jesus Christ; this guide is intended for any faith and even those who may see themselves as faithless. The one thing I’ve learned is that God doesn’t make mistakes, and if you are reading these words it was meant for you to do so for a glorious reason.